The loss of a loving partner is one of the most terrible experiences a person can bear because they show up in the prime years of your life and become one significant part of your everyday routine; it is like they are a piece of a puzzle that completes your picture perfectly, and their absence ruins the entire thing. When you choose your partner, you think about how you are going to spend the rest of your life with them, have children, build a home, move forward with your career, and live happily ever after, but then life happens, and everything changes forever. You feel empty when they pass away; getting up in the morning doesn’t feel the same as before because now you get up alone. Even the trivial things seem like a burden, and you start questioning the point of life. Understanding why this loss is so devastating can help individuals regulate the intense emotions and begin the healing process.
The Loss of a Shared Life
Losing a partner is heart-breaking and quite odd at the same time because you don’t just lose a person; you lose the shared life you built together. You shared your dreams, goals, and plans with your partner and imagined them to be in each of the plans, but all of a sudden, they are not in your life anymore, and you don’t know what to do with all your dreams anymore. You feel so much pain and love for them in your heart, but you don’t have a place to pour it all out because that place will be empty for the rest of your life. This constant sense of loss intensifies grief and makes the mourning process deeply emotional and long-lasting.
Emotional and Physical Impact
The grief of losing someone isn’t only emotional; it also has severe physical effects. Many people who lose a partner start experiencing symptoms like insomnia, sudden weight loss or weight gain, weakened immune systems due to stress, and depression. The emotional effects are equally tense because having a partner means having someone who can provide you with comfort, love, and support, and losing them means losing all of these things together. The absence of that emotional connection can feel like losing a part of yourself, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Conclusion
Losing a loved one can leave a long-lasting scar in our lives, but we have to understand that life doesn’t stop after we lose someone. We have to keep going, understand our emotions, seek help, and work on it to move on and heal. This is what our partners would have wanted too, isn’t it? In “We Have Feelings Too,” author Dr. Joan Hill beautifully captures the emotional turmoil of losing a loving partner. Through the story of Oleta losing her husband, Franklin, the author reflects on the deep bond they shared and the immense pain of his absence. The book is a heartfelt journey through grief, offering readers solace by showing that, while the loss may never fully heal, life continues, and with the right support, it’s possible to find peace. This book is a powerful companion for anyone struggling with the loss of a loved one, offering both comfort and hope.
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